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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Misguided hurtful comments can keep us from our primary grief. (Published 6/16/2015)


My son died six yeas ago. I still miss him. Life for me is so extremely different. I have been in therapy since he died. My question: I have not gotten support from my family. My sister says, "I have a friend who lost her son to hanging himself. You should be over this by now. He's dead, 6 ft in the ground, worm food." This statement continues to crop up in my mind and hurts deeply! I so much want my sister to understand the depth of my pain as my son was my only child and we were very close. How can I come to terms with myself that this will never happen? She doesn't understand, because she has not lost her son.

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