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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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The good news and bad news are equal—it's normal and natural to love somone and hate some of the things they've done. (Published 7/29/2014)


My older brother died at age 52, and my younger sister at 55. Now it's only me to take care of our mom and dad (88 & 86). Both siblings sponged off of my parents for years, up to the end of each of their lives. I had to move back to my parents home to take care of mom and dad while those two were already here. I love and miss both of them, but in the same sentence, I'm so Mad At Them! Is this the way I express my grief or am I just upset that now I have NO LIFE except for doctors and nurses? Everyone I know here is over 70. Get my drift?

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